I always wonder- 'when is one ready to fall in love?' For clarification of my context, with love here, I mean the romantic one, and not the one we feel for family, friends, etc. Ahhh my mind kept on pondering over this question for several years and finally I gave in to the fact that- 'love has its own season and a reason!'
What's more important, the time when we fall in love or who we fall in love with? In simple words what holds more significance 'WHEN' or 'WHO'? Many will say 'WHO', the moment I finish my question. It's an obvious choice as love just can't happen without Mr/Ms right. But have you ever thought 'WHEN' we will find that Mr/Ms right?
Everything is governed in this Universe by 'laws of attraction', even the feelings. The so called 'SPARK' for love can get ignited anytime, any moment, by anyone. It may be a crush, infatuation, liking, friendship, a mere acquaintance, hatred or what not. It would be an injustice if I try to generalize. It varies from person to person and that's what makes it beautiful. And suddenly one day, heart gets 'FLIPPED' as love is of all passions the strongest, for it attacks simultaneously the head, the heart and the senses.
Just close your eyes and take a flight through your past. Do you remember your childhood crush, the boy/girl who used to sit on the corner bench of the classroom, whom you fancied? Do you remember the teacher you thought you are in love with, and for just being around you used to attend his/her lectures? Just reckon the whole bunch of boyfriends/girlfriends you had. Try remembering those who were really into you, but you never gave a damn. And a bunch of those to who didn't respond to your feelings. So why this 'MEMORY DRILL'? You will know in a bit.
All the folks you just remembered, why it didn't work out with them? Quite a few times you thought it was love but it got shattered. Many a times you were left with a broken heart and many a times it was the other way round. A couple of times it might have felt like a mistake and you wished to revert things back. How can one go wrong so many times? The answer to this question is - 'May be it was not TIME!!!' It might be possible that you missed upon the person who would have loved, cared, shared the way you always wanted, who would complimented you perfectly. You didn't realize it then because it wasn't the 'SEASON' of love though you had the 'REASON'.
So, what is this so called 'SEASON FOR LOVE'? The answer is quite simple - When you are 'READY' to accept the responsibilities that come with a relationship, love, share, care, be selfless. At that time, 'THE ONE' who be close to you, who understands you best, who will by your side in all ups and downs, who will make you feel home, will become your 'REASON' in the season of love.
What's more important, the time when we fall in love or who we fall in love with? In simple words what holds more significance 'WHEN' or 'WHO'? Many will say 'WHO', the moment I finish my question. It's an obvious choice as love just can't happen without Mr/Ms right. But have you ever thought 'WHEN' we will find that Mr/Ms right?
Everything is governed in this Universe by 'laws of attraction', even the feelings. The so called 'SPARK' for love can get ignited anytime, any moment, by anyone. It may be a crush, infatuation, liking, friendship, a mere acquaintance, hatred or what not. It would be an injustice if I try to generalize. It varies from person to person and that's what makes it beautiful. And suddenly one day, heart gets 'FLIPPED' as love is of all passions the strongest, for it attacks simultaneously the head, the heart and the senses.
Just close your eyes and take a flight through your past. Do you remember your childhood crush, the boy/girl who used to sit on the corner bench of the classroom, whom you fancied? Do you remember the teacher you thought you are in love with, and for just being around you used to attend his/her lectures? Just reckon the whole bunch of boyfriends/girlfriends you had. Try remembering those who were really into you, but you never gave a damn. And a bunch of those to who didn't respond to your feelings. So why this 'MEMORY DRILL'? You will know in a bit.
All the folks you just remembered, why it didn't work out with them? Quite a few times you thought it was love but it got shattered. Many a times you were left with a broken heart and many a times it was the other way round. A couple of times it might have felt like a mistake and you wished to revert things back. How can one go wrong so many times? The answer to this question is - 'May be it was not TIME!!!' It might be possible that you missed upon the person who would have loved, cared, shared the way you always wanted, who would complimented you perfectly. You didn't realize it then because it wasn't the 'SEASON' of love though you had the 'REASON'.
So, what is this so called 'SEASON FOR LOVE'? The answer is quite simple - When you are 'READY' to accept the responsibilities that come with a relationship, love, share, care, be selfless. At that time, 'THE ONE' who be close to you, who understands you best, who will by your side in all ups and downs, who will make you feel home, will become your 'REASON' in the season of love.
Very well..
ReplyDeleteI always had that ambiguity about love and relationships. Faced a lot of hardships and eventually could boil down to one conclusion which you have summarized in your post.
It's not a question, not just an emotion, it's something which you know only when it happens!
And like somebody has said, even if you let it go, it comes back if it was true. :)
(Learnt through real life experiences) :D
Keep up the great work!
Nice to see somebody finally getting into this writing business.
Looking forward to the next post!
\m/..\m/
Shriti
मेरे खतो के कफ़न काग़ज़ी लिफाफो से ,
ReplyDeleteदफ़न से हर्फ़ ज़रा अब महक रहे होगे,
अब उनकी खूबसूरती उतर गयी होगी ,
वक़्त के साथ मायने बदल गए होगे |
मगर हैरत मेरे पते पे लौटते क्यूँ नही ,
तुम्हे छूते ही चिपक जाते हैं सायो की तरह,
तुम्हे शिकन नही होती सडन से क्यूँ उनकी ,
कही जुकाम तो नही , नही आने की वजह |
खतो को फातेहा पढता हूँ आज मै अपने ,
उन्हें सुपुर्द किये जा रहा हूँ वो सपने ,
महक जिनकी सड़ांध कम कर दे ,
और शायद जुकाम भी हर दे |
मुझे तो शौक था पत्थर से दिल लगाने का ,
और हुनर देखना दाँतो से नख चबाने का,
ज़रा जल्दी करो होता है वक़्त जाने का ,
हश्र भी देखना है तेरे उस बहाने का |
मै इंतज़ार करूँगा तुम्हारे आने का ||
"bunch of GFs/BFs"...aisa tu hi likh sakti hai ;)
ReplyDeleteiss topic p tujhse jada kisko exp hoga !!!
U know what.... love doesn't have so called "SEASON OR REASON".... Its always around you, its just that you are not soooo concerned about the same....
ReplyDeleteThe time you realize its importance in your life you will feel that love is in your life.....
So as i always say... you should give some time for your self, think & let things happen with you apart from your professional priorities...
No one is Mr/Ms right, its always an individual has to understand & make things happen in love......
So i am stopping myself here for U to think.......
from mom- a few grammatical mistakes, all in all nice blog. Enjoyed reading it, keep it up baby :)
ReplyDeleteIt is interesting what u pointed out as probably the two most impactful factors for 'making life out of love'. the timing and understanding (sorry I do not want to say reason. Because many people say love can happen for no reason also).
ReplyDeleteYes. But,
Those can only 'determine the outcome' of having fallen in love.
Love in itself is a whole different animal (in my humble opinion).
What that animal is, I bet very few and in my experience, none can describe.
From my experience, Love is an extremely slow process, where u can not imagine tomorrow without having that person beside u. If it happens that he/she is missing, it will turn out to be an extremely strange and sorrowful day.
That is as far as I could understand it, beyond that, it is still elusive, I hear about sacrifices, remembrances, monuments, poems a whole bunch of reflections that our ancestors have left before us as tokens of representing LOVE.
So, without boring u anymore, I want to conclude,
that if any of the past crushes et.al din't work out, it is because of the two factors u pointed out correctly.
But if Love did happen at any of those times, it would not have died.
you may have failed to 'make a life out of it', by which I mean, follow the usual ritual called wedding and then a life in marriage. But if it indeed is love,
it remains.
It sometimes re-appears,
as a poem,
as a seclusive tear,
as a cold corner in the heart,..
but more often,...
.
.
as a reason to smile and to love life where he/she lives , away from u probably, but alive. Just as Love itself.
I agree with each and every word you wrote. Exactly the emotion I wanted to communicate. If you ever shared the emotion of Love with someone in your life, you made memories to cherish forever. Its not necessary to end up with them.
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